Here's a few pictures that might help, some of the picture quality is crap due to resizing.
The first picture is of an esc. You'll notice there are three wires on one side, which are the wires that connext to your motor. The other side has a red, which is hot, a black, which is ground, and a grouping of three smaller wires. One of these smaller wires, in the case of mine the yellow one, is the signal wire. The other two are hot and ground from the bec, putting out 5v.
The next picture is of a reciever. The top plug, or the 1st spot, has 3 wires going into it. This is your throttle connection. One of these wires is signal, and the other two are hot and ground, pulling 5v from the FC to power itself. The rest of the connections for the rest of the channels will only have one wire, for signal.
The next picture is of the signal, hot and ground wires from all four esc's plugged into to fc. If you were to pull the power wires from 3, 3 of them would only have the signal wire connected, while one would have all 3 wires still connected.
The last picture is of a simple Male to male deans to xt 60 connector, for batteries that have a deans connector so I can plug them into my quad, which has a female xt 60 connector