There are lots of build guides and videos out there, but without having more constraints on what you're wanting it's hard to just throw together a list that is going to fit the desired features and price.
My suggestion is if you aren't interested in surveying/GPS control then go with BetaFlight, if you are interested in those things then you might want to consider a flight controller that supports ardupilot or the pixhawk.
For limiting maximum speed it really depends on a ton of factors. Starting off on 3S battery and 1800kv motors with bi-blades myself I can say this is a more tame setup (than my current 2300kv on 4S battery with tri-blades), that said it doesn't make it easier to fly necessarily since things aren't as locked in (controls aren't as responsive and quad is spending more time stopping itself from wobbling and less time doing what I want it to do). I also started off with a Naze32 board which by modern standards was very sub-par and a 3d printed frame... so yah not an ideal first build but I did manage to make it fly.
The speed of the quad is a product of the weight of the quad and the thrust produced by the props/motors/escs/battery.
The props have a pitch (how tilted are they how much do they push on the air for each rotation) and diameter... The bigger and higher pitch a prop the more torque it takes to push it through the air, to produce torque the BLDC motors run higher current into the coils to create a magnetic field that pushes the permanent magnet on the rotor (higher current is stronger field but also more heat at some point this melts the coils in the motor or at least the enamel coating on them).
The motors are rated in "kv", if a motor is 1800kv, it goes 1800RPM for each 1V you apply to it, so apply 2V and it goes 3600RPM. The batteries are labelled by how many cells in series and how much capacity, a 4S is 4*4.2V(max voltage per cell) = 16.8V when fully charged, with 1800kv motor and 4S the max motor speed is 30,240 RPM, if instead you used 3S (12.5V) max RPM would be 22,500.
All said I think 5045 props, 2300kv or 2600kv (22|05 diameter|height or bigger spec on motor) and 30A or better ESCs (that support 2-6S ideally and run BL_Heli32... with LEDs
or 4 in 1 ), some sort of carbon frame to screw it all to and at least an F4 maybe an F7 flight controller and a PDB is a really solid setup.
If it is a first quad I would suggest you get a micro-brushless like the mobula7 or something similar (I fly a kingkong 90GT when I break my bigger one, or fly a brushed whoop inside when it's too crappy out).
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Oh also you can limit the max rotation speed, or the max fixed angle if you fly in angle mode (acro mode is so much more fun), and can dampen the throttle in betaflight configuration, so if you have "too much power" you can always chill it back there some, but mostly it's about learning to fly and tame that beast yourself
