my soldering experience is limited to the cheapo "radio shack" (united states, aka rat shack) 15v models (several of which got turned into herbal vaporisers) ... so back then, it didn't take a lot of thought. you buy the solder and the iron, it's enough for a decade of home repairs.
since then i've been stuck in circumstances where i was using old solder left in a shed meant for electic not electronic, so i've worked with "the wrong solder" and am used to it being clumpy because it doesn't heat evenly, and the regimen of issues form working on tiny things you've already mucked up with globs of solder all over the place (i'm sure you figure stuff out, like, putting a shield between where you're working and things it would not be good to spatter or drip on to..)
but i don't have the particular knowledge of what is what... i've just used solders with the wrong flux for my iron et c. and know "when it isn't working right"
but i *also* know when it *is* working right, enough to fiddle with stuff like this
(modded dr110 drum machine with a dozen potentiometers hacked in)
in less than ideal circumstances, you play with variables, like holding the tip to make enough contact to best avail the temp your iron is throwing, but, all i can really say to you is,
it shouldn't be that hard. !
it's easier when the thingys are all right, really